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Emmie's avatar

I can’t even imagine how difficult all of this is. I don’t have any words of wisdom, but I am thankful that you have wonderful people surrounding you and supporting you. ❤️

Mr. Veritas's avatar

Words will never express the sorrow of losing a beloved spouse to cancer's devasting destruction.

I wrote this in my latest book after five years of dying inside without my beautiful wife.

"Sometimes, when life grows heavy,

a person who truly loves you,

will quietly hold you closer.

He can't erase the pain,

nor banish any fear of dying.

But he will sit beside you gently,

care for and comfort you

with his steady presence,

until God takes you home."

I pray that you can find comfort from your loss, grief and loneliness.

Keri Louise's avatar

Thanks for sharing this. I have those friends who have been there for those kinds of moments when you just need a loving presence to help you get through the mundane tasks in life. They are gifts. Love the playlist! Music is a true form of communication for me.

Jean's avatar

This is so fking hard to go through. Sending love and many blessings to your tender heart. I am glad to hear you have people who show up.💜

Diario de un Übermensch's avatar

Sending much love and strength ❤️

My Unapologetic Playlist's avatar

Thank you so much for your support.

Diario de un Übermensch's avatar

Sending much love and strength ❤️

Candy Kennedy's avatar

You are at that point in your grief where you float through days, doing what you must but trying not to spend too much time and effort dwelling on what can’t be changed. Then, something like the dirty waffle maker sheds light on the loss. Those moments are rightly the ones to write about and see as powerful reminders of not only what happened but how insignificant they were at the time, when the bottom was falling out of your life. You have a powerful story that so many can learn from. Thanks for sharing it.

Rev. Kevin T. Taylor's avatar

Penny, the phrase “parallel play” feels especially powerful here because it names a form of care that often goes unnoticed. Grief can make even ordinary tasks feel weighted with memory, and having someone simply share the space while life gets done can be its own kind of companionship. The pruning of the trees and the cleaning of the waffle maker both carry the ache of plans interrupted, yet the presence of friends suggests that healing is often less about fixing pain and more about helping carry it. Thank you for capturing how love sometimes arrives with work gloves, conversation, and enough time to stand beside someone while they do the next necessary thing.